You’ve been given a pre-natal diagnosis that you didn’t want to hear.
The perfect baby you’ve been imagining as the new member of your family now has a different face, a different future, a different set of needs.
The rosy glasses of parenthood are on the pavement in front of you, smashed by the heel of a doctor’s boot, warped and unwearable.
The reality is that most of the advice you will receive at this point will be to have an abortion.
“It’s been proven via such-and-such a screening method that your baby has a certain percentage chance of being born with this or that disability or impairment.”
It’s shocking. Horrifying. And they’re saying you’re best to cut your losses and start afresh. They are professionals, and you respect their advice.
But what if they’re wrong?
There are so many other scenarios that should be considered in this situation.
Firstly, there are countless examples of pre-natal diagnoses that were proven completely false when a healthy baby was born, without the fated condition.
Secondly, what if life with a child who has a particular disability isn’t as bad as you thought? In fact, what if it changes your life for the better?
The best thing you can do is to talk to someone who once stood in your shoes, at this threshold of unknowing. Ask the parent of a child with Down syndrome or Fragile X Syndrome or who was born with a cleft palate or a congenital heart defect what their life is like. Ask them, if they had their time again, would they have aborted their baby?
Here’s a good place to start.