A new start, a different country and an unexpected pregnancy
Pregnant in the place you just called home
Nikki Sy-Siong was seventeen and newly migrated to Australia from the Philippines when she found out she was pregnant. She was scared.
Nikki remembers feeling ashamed and wondering how she could possibly tell her parents.
“A few days after I took the pregnancy test, it was night time and my mum was watching TV in the lounge,” Nikki reflected.
“I was so nervous that I was pacing back and forth. I was like, should I tell her? Should I show her the test results?”
Before Nikki could say a word to her mother, Bernadette looked her in the eye and asked, “Are you pregnant?”
With no support network of friends and no idea of how to deal with an unexpected pregnancy, the news took Nikki and her mother completely by surprise.
What should we do?
Bernadette felt weak and overwhelmed—she needed to find a quick and easy solution for her daughter.
“In my mind, I was looking for a cure, as if pregnancy was a sickness, a disease that Nikki needed healing from,” Bernadette said.
And Nikki’s GP reinforced this by advising her to abort the baby—because being a single mother could only place shame, embarrassment and financial pressure on the family.
But this advice didn’t ring true for Nikki.
We changed our mind
Nikki realised she had a choice to make. So, she took her mother to an ultrasound and they heard the heartbeat of Nikki’s baby girl for the first time.
Suddenly, Nikki’s choice wasn’t about her pregnancy, it was about her daughter. Bernadette’s perspective shifted—this tiny body on the screen and that beating heart belonged to her grandchild.
The choice Nikki and Bernadette made three years ago lights up their life today. Little Nahla is a beautiful, dark-haired ball of energy. She is a treasure to her family—an irreplaceable, priceless and remarkable gift.
The irreversible decision
Reports show 70 per cent of women have abortions because they feel like they have no other choice. Many women suffer deeply and often for a prolonged time after terminating their pregnancy.
Most Australians are unaware there are between 70–80 000 abortions annually, and over 95 per cent of these are performed in healthy women, carrying healthy children.
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Do you have all the information you need right now? Our mission is to provide you with all the facts you need to make an informed decision.
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Why we care
notbornyet started out of concern that some women were making a rushed and irreversible decision about their pregnancy. For many women it’s an intensely vulnerable time. Many come under pressure from others and are unable to access or consider all the facts about the short- and long-term consequences of their choice.
We are pro-woman and for-children.
notbornyet is the campaign website of Emily’s Voice, a not-for-profit charity started to help Australians fall in love with the unborn, and encourage and support women with an unplanned or crisis pregnancy.